Why is it that naturally we find it easier to point out the things we don’t like about ourselves but find it harder to point out the things that we like. Self confidence is something that I’m sure a lot of us struggle with especially nowadays there's so much pressure to have certain things and look a certain way. But what is wrong with how we are?

Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others?

I know I’m definitely guilty of this, whether it be on Instagram or people I know. Like I should be doing that or have a house, be settled down or have X amount of money, but who made up those rules? There is no right or wrong way of doing things, we are all on our own individual journey and this is something I have to keep on reminding myself. Also the more we focus on the things we don’t have we are just wasting time and are forgetting about what we DO have. We are all blessed in different ways and just because you may not have something that someone else has doesn’t mean that you can’t achieve certain goals. You are exactly where you need to be and if you focus on your own personal growth then you are moving forward.

I’ve had periods where I really live inside my head and you know what, it’s just not fun for my mind and myself in general to be honest. I noticed I wasn’t moving forward, like I have goals I want to achieve and things I want to do and a certain way I want to feel but wasn’t getting there. Why? Because I was too busy focusing on what I didn’t have and looking at the life of someone on Instagram. I had to really make a conscious effort to turn those thoughts around. It’s a process but it’s worth it if it means I’m going to feel better in myself. Now I tell myself that if I work hard enough and put in the effort I will get to where I want to be but it all starts with ME! Nothing is going to magically come to me and all the people I look at and compared myself to I’m sure worked soo hard to get to where they wanted to be so why can’t I do the same. I definitely need a rocket up my bum sometimes and that’s ok, these are all life’s lessons. We just need to be kinder to ourselves and embrace our individuality.

“I JUST WANT STRAIGHT HAIR!”

I feel like we all want what we can’t have too, so when I was in school I would straighten my hair nearly every week because I didn’t like my curly hair but now I like it and wish I never killed my curls. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with making changes if it will truly make you happy but as long as you are doing it for YOURSELF only. Also “trends” are constantly changing, one minute thin brows are in and the next it’s all about bushy brows (and yes I went through the thin brow trend and no it was not a good look on me!) I’m a big believer that if you like something and feel confident whether it be an outfit or a hair colour you rock it and don’t care what anyone else says because Tom might not like it but Sarah will love it so you can’t please everyone (I don’t know who Tom and Sarah are, they were the first names that popped in my head lol.)

So this is a reminder that accept you for you and know that you are amazeballs just the way you are. Take what you see on social media with a pinch of salt, that’s just a small portion of our lives it’s not what defines us. Also there is room for everyone in this world including YOU, so if there’s something you want that seems out of reach just go for it if it’s what you really want. If you give your all then you are on your way and yes we may fail but failure is all part of the process. You are enough!

Lots of love,

Daniella x